Should You Have A Big Wedding Or Elope
People say that romance is dead these days. They go on and on about how thirty or forty years ago, people tended to get married for life. They also talk at great length about the lavish, impressive weddings that people used to have. Other people say that lavish, huge weddings should be, and are, a thing of the past and that eloping works much better for most people these days. Who is right? Or is this a situation where no one is right…and no one is wrong?
The real truth is, the decision to have a large, a small or no wedding at all is a deeply personal one. Each couple has to make a decision based on what is best for them, and no one else. It can be tempting to have a big wedding because your parents or your family want to have one, but that is one of the worst reasons to have a big wedding. If you are having a large wedding because your family wants you to, then you are not having the wedding you want. And who is getting married, at the end of the day? You, or your family?
So how do you decide? One of the best ways to tell if you should have a big wedding or not is to figure out how many people you truly want to come. Some people have a large number of family and friends that they want to come to their wedding. In that case, they should absolutely have a larger wedding. They would have to accommodate more people, after all!
However, if you find that you don’t really want very many people at your wedding, or you don’t want anyone at all, then eloping may really be the best choice. It may seem harsh to deny your parents or friends a chance to see you get married, but if they truly care about you, they will understand your choice.
The number of people you want to show up is a simple, yet effective way to figure out what kind of wedding you should have. If you want a big wedding, then go nuts! There’s nothing wrong with having a large wedding if that’s what you want (and can afford). But don’t feel as though you have to have a large wedding just to make others happy. You should have the wedding you want, not the wedding they want. Regardless of which option you choose, remember to apply for a marriage licence and ensure that you marriage is registered.